Relationship – Why You Should Be In A Relationship And How To Grow It

TEXTS: RUTH 1:1-22 AND I SAMUEL 20:1-42
M/VERSE: “And Ruth said, entreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou longest, I will lodge, thy people shall be my people and thy God my God, where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the LORD do so to me, and more also if ought but death part thee and me (Ruth 1:16-17).


Human beings are described as social creatures that do not exist in isolation. One way or the other, we need one another. But in determining whom you associate with, you need to be very careful This is so because, the one you choose to associate with, can either raise you or bring you down. This careful choice cuts across all ages, whether young or old

In picking up a relationship with anybody, there must be a reason for it. However, some relationships start unconsciously. All the same, if that unconscious growth of relationship crops up and becomes firm, one way or the other, and you eventually find out that that relationship that unconsciously grew up, is causing more harm than good, you have the choice to consciously terminate it.

Do not wait for an unconscious termination or severance of that relationship which unconsciously grew. No, you must wittingly and consciously terminate it! Some relationships start casually and gradually become very serious. Some grow from one kind or reason of that relationship into another. This is how a relationship can unfold itself. But remember that whatever the case may be, the relationship should not control you; you are meant to watch and control the relationship. You know that the spirit of the prophet is subject to the prophet. A relationship that swallows your emotions in such a way that you cannot control it, should be avoided at the early stage before it takes a tight grip on you.


You cannot establish a relationship with somebody without a reason. There must be a reason. So, what led you into that relationship you are in now? Do you think that the person you find yourself in that relationship is the right person? These are the questions you should genuinely answer before allowing such a relationship to grow and take a strong hold on you. How much of that person do you know? Ruth 1:1-22. Before Ruth started making such very serious assertions to Naomi, she had known Naomi and her family inside out.

She also knew that what happened to Naomi, her husband, and her children, were acts of attack on her destiny and not that hers was over with destiny. Ruth knew very well that what she had been told of the powerful God of Israel and the glorious nature of Bethlehem, were all true. Naomi’s depression and disillusionment did not deter Ruth, she knew very well, the relationship she entered into. That is a case study for all of us to borrow a leaf from.

As youths, when the mention of relationship is made, what readily gets into your mind is male-female matter. But we are not restricted to that in our study today. The study is a “general-purpose talk”. David and Jonathan were in a royal lifetime relationship that bound them so tightly whether in life or death. It was strong that over time, after Jonathan fell to the superior combat of Israel’s enemies on the battlefield, Jonathan’s son, no matter how disabled he was, feasted at David’s royal table contrary to people’s expectations after the departure of royalty from King Saul’s lineage. So, relationships could border on friendship, business, co-habiting, colleagueship, marriage, and the rest of them.

It is not restricted. Gender-wise, it could be a same-sex relationship or male-female in nature. What matters in anyone that surfaces are the true properties of an enduring and helpful relationship that leads to the fulfillment of the purpose for which it was entered into. Acts 1:1-11. Jesus’ purpose for selecting and relating with His disciples had thus, been fulfilled. That is what a successful relationship should result in at last, whether in death or life; present or absent.


Do you know what the “properties” of a healthy relationship entail? I know of somebody who entered into a male-female relationship without a lot of knowledge of the properties of a healthy relationship. The result was a monumental disaster. The relationship led into a conjugal one that persists but amid sorrows and woes. You must understand what you are into and assess it from time to time to know whether the worth still subsists. If you notice any ailment in that relationship, please pause and watch how things unfold subsequently. In. 6:29-71

When you notice that something is wrong with the relationship and pretend it does not exist just because you want to manage it, you will regret it at last. But when the bubble will suddenly bursts, you will find out with incredible shock that you have been sitting on a keg of gunpowder all the while. But a stitch in time saves nine. When you subject your relationship to regular evaluations, you may have little or no regrets as things unfold. Stop pretending that all is well with the relationship you are into for any purpose because the ghost of such pretense will keep on haunting you when things blow out of proportion and escalate beyond redemption.


Back out of any relationship that could cost you your life or any very important destiny value.

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